I have been thinking about how I want to word this post, but the words haven't come to me because I have too many feelings on it. So I am just going to start typing and see where it leads me:
Family Support: (title of my post)
I was at lunch with a friend from my ward. We were meeting because this friend of mine is going through a certain trial in her life that I have just so happened to have experienced as well. INFERTILITY! A word that I happen to not like, but also have learned to appreciate. I've learned that positive things can come from something discouraging and trialsome.
This friend of mine wasn't so discouraged about infertility itself, but the lack of family support happened to be what was weighing heavily on her that made infertility difficult. This got me to pondering about my infertility situation and the support I have received from family and friends that made this particular trial easier to live with.
So, I would like to list a few instances where support helped me out through difficult times:
1. Mandy (good friend from high school) helped me find an infertility specialist and insisted he was the best. THANK YOU Mandy!!
2. Brooke, (wonderful sister) you watched Arianna for me on numerous occations and even came with me to the drs while going through my IVF proceedure...THANKS!
3. Amy, (wonderful sister) you called me up when I found out my IVF proceedure didn't work and you cried with me. This moment stands out because Amy actually lost her only girl to SIDS at 6 months old and here she was feeling so sad for me because I really wanted a child. See I look at it this way, at least I didn't have a child to lose, where she actually had a baby for 6 months and lost her...THANK YOU!
4. Dad, while I was getting ready to adopt (the first attempt that fell through) you helped me to understand what a birth mother might be going through. This helped me to have more patience and love for her and I really tried to understand what this birth mother was doing for me. Gracias!!
5. Mom, you have always encouraged that there is more to do.
6. Kim (great friend) was a listening ear. Plus, you always helped me understand the Lord's plan better while going through my struggles...thank you!
There was so much support from all and if I didn't mention you, I am sorry. Alayna is sad and I need to finish so I can be a mom.
13 comments:
What a sweet and open post. I think most of us don't blog about real, raw stuff. So thanks! Anyway, I like your list because I have a sister with similar issues and I haven't always known what to do or say. Maybe just listening and supporting is all.
You have always been a good friend, and have helped me (even if you didn't know it)through my trials with infertility. You are such a great example of faith to me. I know that if I can be strong like you that things will work out no matter how long or what process I have to go through. Thanks, you are a great friend.
Angie
Lets get together when you come for Christmas for sure!
Ang
What a wonderful post! Instead of dwelling on a trial you turned it into something good! I am really amazed with you.. Not a lot of people can look at something as hard as you have had and not be bitter! What a good example you are to me and so many other people!
Cami
Ang, you were always there with a listening ear for me. It was always nice to have someone there going through the same thing that could understand. Thanks! Going through what I did has been the biggest blessing of all. This life is about learning and growing, and I grew a whole bunch! I KNOW Heavenly Father knows what is best for each and everyone of us. There is not a day that goes by where I don't thank my Heavenly Father for my little family.
I love this post Ang. I love hearing people express gratitude! It grows my own gratitude:) P.S. I left a note for you in face book about the fact that I am flaking out on you for Thanksgiving. After I made plans with you I learned that Timmy's grandma wants us to come down (she lives alone and doesn't get many visitors). Since she is not going to be around much longer, we are going to go visit her for the day! SORRY! We'll talk more. Will you email me your phone number?
Ang, you are one of the greatest blessing in my life...thanks
I am proud of my little sister. In many ways your have been more mature and grown up than me. Thanks for being an example to me. When you were going through this particular trial, I was ALWAYS impressed and amazed of how strong you were and still are. I LOVE being around you Ang. You have a sense of life that I feel EVERY TIME I am around you. Thanks for being you.
I liked reading that. With all the struggles in the world, its good to know that everyone has ups and downs and that we are surrounded by amazing, loving people.
I liked reading that. With all the struggles in the world, its good to know that everyone has ups and downs and that we are surrounded by amazing, loving people.
Thank you for sharing ways that we can help and support those who are struggling with infertility. My sister and my brother both went through that. They have both adopted 4 kids each but it has been a major struggle because they all seem to have special problems. My brother seems open and talks about his difficulties. My sister on the other hand has always seemed very bitter and it's hard to know how to support her. She's much older and is long past the age of having children but it is still a source of great sorrow for her.
what an amazing post. thanks so much for the invite to Thanksgiving! we thought it would be fun to walk to your place, so don't worry about reserving a parking spot for us. also, our blog is thejoshdaltonfamily.blogspot.com.
So... I love your post! It has brought me happy feelings all through the week as I have thought of it. You are an incredible sister and a GREAT example to me.
Love you!
You are an amazing woman...so strong, full of faith and you give beautiful, selfless service. Family support does make a huge difference. I hope someday to be as strong and positive as you are. Not a day goes by when I don't have several moments of sadness about not having more kids. I really admire your great outlook.
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